An Orange a Day

If your emotional side tends to take control of you in most situations on a daily basis, you may need to work on building up your emotional strengh, so that you can both control it and harness the strength it can give you, rather than being held captive by emotional outbursts. The following tips can help you to find the strength deep inside you, because you already have it all, you just need to find it.

1. Make the decision today. Decide that you want to be strong, to let nothing negatively affect you. Remind yourself of this every single morning.
2.Resolve to change and do it. To succeed you must be willing to change. Be ready to do that. One cannot control what happens externally, but one can change oneself.
3.Believe in yourself. Once you believe you are strong emotionally, you will unconsciously act stronger than before and begin to take control over your emotions. It's about confidence.
4.Look confident. Only you can build your self confidence. The first step is to believe deeply in yourself. Even when you don't feel so confident, at least do your best to portray confidence. This is a booster in itself and it is important that you keep it up.
5.Don't show fear. Act fearless. Confront fears by doing one thing every day that scares you. Start with little things at first and build up to the sky dive, the doing a personal development course that forces you to confront yourself, telling someone how you really feel, good or bad..
6.Don't be afraid of tomorrow because it's made to be a mystery, a challenge for you. Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. Get on with it.
7.Don't be afraid of anyone. Keep in mind that everyone, no matter how strong they look, is afraid of how others will receive them and interact with them. They may not show it because they've learned to hide it and have adopted good coping mechanisms which you can learn. Learn to appreciate being with people, to learn from them, to ask them questions. If your fear starts to overwhelm you and you feel your emotions rising, stop and count to ten. Change the focus by asking other people questions and let them do the talking. They'll appreciate your attentiveness.
8.Be and think positively and be optimistic. Find something good in everything you have, do and hear. Find three good things about every person you meet. Do not hate people. Hatred is weakness and a wasted energy. You don't have to love, just don't hate and always seek the goodness in others. Look at the positive attributes a person has, because nobody is perfect, but they do have good points we can be apreciative of. Take a further step: give a compliment!
9.When you speak, make eye contact, speaking calmly, with confidence, about something you know well, and briefly. People get bored easily. After all, you cannot make someone pay attention to you, you can only convince them to do so. It is like respect, it is earned.
10.Don't let anyone underestimate you. Don't be bitter about it and don't get mean if it happens. Just defend yourself calmly and in a mature way with dignity and self preservation. Once again, count to ten and walk away. Be humble; this is a great strength.
10.Learn from mistakes. Actually they're not mistakes , they're just lessons that you could learn from. Be positive about all that happens. Accept that you are only human too.
11.Watch other strong people, see how they act in a certain way and learn from them. Don't copy their personality, just take a little bit from everyone. Everyone has something to give.
12. Review and improve, adjust. Each night, reflect on what happened that day, and think of ways you can make changes and improvements. It is a very effective way to build on something and develop a greater you.

* Remember, don't be too hard on yourself. Give yourself the space and patience, but just never, ever give up!